We all at
some point in our lives may have the experience of love at least once. It was Shakespeare
said that the” Journey ends in lovers meeting”. Good luck with that because
except Shakespeare I don’t know anyone who practically experienced this .But if
you are really interested of explore Shakespeare kind of love, you can be blind
with love. Actually it was the Shakespeare who said that “love is blind”
“Here,
catch this casket; it is worth the pains.
I
am glad 'tis night, you do not look on me,
For
I am much ashamed of my exchange:
But
love is blind and lovers cannot see
The
pretty follies that themselves commit;
For
if they could, Cupid himself would blush
To
see me thus transformed to a boy.”
As far as I can
remember this is in Merchant of Venice. There are some cases that cupid
responsible for wrong match making. But love is something we have to feel at
any point of our lives
I think more
or less we all have experienced of this. It’s okay to be blind at some point in
our lives. Even Brian Adams saying this in very simple way;
“When you
love someone you'll do anything
You'll do
all the crazy things that you can't explain
You'll shoot
the moon, put out the sun
When you
love someone
You'll deny
the truth, believe a lie
There'll be
times that you'll believe that you could really fly
But your
lonely nights have just begun
When you
love someone
When you
love someone you'll feel it deep inside
And nothing
else could ever change your mind
When you
want someone, when you need someone
When you
love someone...
When you
love someone you'll sacrifice
Giving
everything you got and you won't think twice
You'd risk
it all no matter what may come
When you
love someone.
YeahYou'll shoot
the moon, put out the sun
When you
love someone”
Well of
course I personally did not try shooting the moon but I did looking at the moon.
This song is much nice to hear with Brian Adams unique voice. Also I did it may
times. As the song says we do sacrifices over love. This may cause to result us
sometimes in a very bad way.
There are may be some occasions we do all the
crazy things and someone happily taking advantages out of it. We might be
helpless victims’ of the love. I don t know how to identify this from the beginning
but don’t ever think of become a victim of love. That is the worst thing could
be happened to a human.
Love could be happened with between two people
.but if you have big heart it could be more, but in unrequited love it’s only
you alone. You may find nice stories, great piece of writing justifying of
being a victim of unrequited love, but still those are only nice words. In
reality this only makes you miserable. Very much similar to looking for a
parking space but you are never finding a parking lot, everywhere is already taken,
it almost kills you. So never be a victim of unrequited love, not worthy in our
short period of life span.
In Buddhist Literature
being miserable at unrequited love highly appreciated.It was prince Siddhartha who
left his wife Princes Yashodhara and newly born son Prince Rahula. Well prince
Sidhartha had a great reason of leaving his palace but Princes Yashodhara and
prince Rahula did not see over 7 years. Then again Prince Yashodhara had lot of
family support from her father in law it says she did not come down from 7th
floor from her palace.
Of course most
of Lankans are very good at falling love. We have a great history on love
stories .It was the Kuweni who betrayed her relations for sake of love over Prince
Wijeya, But later King Wijeya banished Kuweni to the Jungle and had a queen form India. This was pre Buddhist
history of Sri Lanka.
But not everyone
like King Wijeya. It is not only the
King Edward VIII chose to abdicate his throne because of the woman he loved, We have Prince
Saliya who did the same thing during the period of Anuradhapura. Prince Saliya
was King Dutugamunu’s Son he fall on live with beautiful low cast girl, Ashokamala and simply he gave up his throne .Eventhough King
Dutugamunu is famous for being war hero
,who defeated King Elara,with his son’s matter he was very gentle father. He
built a nice palace near the Lake Tissa, still we can see ruins of this place.
The Ranmasu Uyana, it’s the first recreational facility in ancient Sri Lanka.Also
there is a stone mural Prince Saliya and Ashokamala. Everyone known as “the Isurumuniya
Lovers”
But it is
not necessarily to end the love story from marriage. It’s good if we can finish
it over a marriage, but most cases it’s not the end. The Indian Sub continents
we have great love story Over God Krishna. The God Krishna is the eighth
incarnation of God Vishnu.
The epic love story of Radha and Krishna consider as
the climax of all the love stories in Indian sub-continent. Radha is Krishna's
supreme beloved, but they never got married or even remotely close to that, Radha
was already married by the time she met Krishna. Later Krishna married Rukmini
not only that he married another 16008 wives, but still between Radha and
Krishna had very passionate love over each other. They had nine nights on banks
of Yamuna River. Still Hindus celebrate “Nawa Rathree” based on this event.
But again
with 16008 wives Krishna might not have enough time to spent with Radha .If
Krishna spent a day with a one of his wife he will approximately take over 40 years to for all of them...well that 's little higher hope . But still
Between Radha and Krishna we believe they have true love for each other’s. I’ m
not sure Radha has that much patience over Krishna. But again she has a husband
as well while Krishna is away from her.
This is good
if we are looking for some sort of divine eternal experience in love, but if
you are looking for something more human experience I think it’s better to
avoid already married people.
Sri Lankan poet, song writer, actually a man of
many things, Mr. Lushan Bulathsinghala has written poem which says that the
real love stories will never ended in marriage and those who got married will
never stay as lovers. It may be his personal idea but most cases getting
married is totally different from fall in love.
When we get married
more or less it is like an agreement with certain
conditions, as Sri Lankans many of us; we do have to think of our parents.
Without their consent of course can get marired,but rest of the other things
are not that easy. Most of us cannot ignore parents and family even if we think
of being independent or radical. I have seen some cross marriages over different
religions in Sri Lanka.From the beginning they all thought how bravely they
have made decision over their marriages but when they reached to their middle
age most of them start regretting.
The other
critical reason which affect to the marriage is horoscope.In Sri Lanka most of
them have strong believe over matching horoscope, some love affairs over 10 years,
but they did not get married because of the horoscope issues.
In Sri Lanka
we had very sad real love stories, A
school boy stabbed to a one of his class mate simply the boy could not accept
the rejection of his love by the girl. There may be lot of stories similar to this,
but I personally knew the family of the girl. Their home is in Kiri Ella, which is about 10 km from my
home town.
The boy and girl knew each other for long time, Now both families
has lost a son and a daughter. The boy is serving in prison. Both of them were
in my age this was happened in 2002 while we were doing advanced level .during
the election day I met the mother of the girl who was killed at school nearly
13 years ago. She cried in the middle of the town when I talked with her. She
is still crying for the loss of her love. She told me recently her husband also
passed away and now she is alone .She was saying there is nothing she could do
to forget the memories of her lost daughter. For my understanding parents love cannot be replaced
at all. Again this may not be a common fact for everyone but for most of us.
I think
children can replace by their love with someone else. They have time and they
will meet people, but love parents cannot do that. They will never have time
when they lost their love ones.
