We all at some point in our lives may have the experience of love at least once. It was Shakespeare said that the” Journey ends in lovers meeting”. Good luck with that because except Shakespeare I don’t know anyone who practically experienced this .But if you are really interested of explore Shakespeare kind of love, you can be blind with love. Actually it was the Shakespeare who said that “love is blind”
“Here, catch this casket; it is worth the pains.
I am glad 'tis night, you do not look on me,
For I am much ashamed of my exchange:
But love is blind and lovers cannot see
The pretty follies that themselves commit;
For if they could, Cupid himself would blush
To see me thus transformed to a boy.”
As far as I can remember this is in Merchant of Venice. There are some cases that cupid responsible for wrong match making. But love is something we have to feel at any point of our lives
I think more or less we all have experienced of this. It’s okay to be blind at some point in our lives. Even Brian Adams saying this in very simple way;
“When you love someone you'll do anything
You'll do all the crazy things that you can't explain
You'll shoot the moon, put out the sun
When you love someone
You'll deny the truth, believe a lie
There'll be times that you'll believe that you could really fly
But your lonely nights have just begun
When you love someone
When you love someone you'll feel it deep inside
And nothing else could ever change your mind
When you want someone, when you need someone
When you love someone...
When you love someone you'll sacrifice
Giving everything you got and you won't think twice
You'd risk it all no matter what may come
When you love someone.
YeahYou'll shoot the moon, put out the sun
When you love someone”
Well of course I personally did not try shooting the moon but I did looking at the moon. This song is much nice to hear with Brian Adams unique voice. Also I did it may times. As the song says we do sacrifices over love. This may cause to result us sometimes in a very bad way.
There are may be some occasions we do all the crazy things and someone happily taking advantages out of it. We might be helpless victims’ of the love. I don t know how to identify this from the beginning but don’t ever think of become a victim of love. That is the worst thing could be happened to a human.
Love could be happened with between two people .but if you have big heart it could be more, but in unrequited love it’s only you alone. You may find nice stories, great piece of writing justifying of being a victim of unrequited love, but still those are only nice words. In reality this only makes you miserable. Very much similar to looking for a parking space but you are never finding a parking lot, everywhere is already taken, it almost kills you. So never be a victim of unrequited love, not worthy in our short period of life span.
In Buddhist Literature being miserable at unrequited love highly appreciated.It was prince Siddhartha who left his wife Princes Yashodhara and newly born son Prince Rahula. Well prince Sidhartha had a great reason of leaving his palace but Princes Yashodhara and prince Rahula did not see over 7 years. Then again Prince Yashodhara had lot of family support from her father in law it says she did not come down from 7th floor from her palace.
Of course most of Lankans are very good at falling love. We have a great history on love stories .It was the Kuweni who betrayed her relations for sake of love over Prince Wijeya, But later King Wijeya banished Kuweni to the Jungle and had a queen form India. This was pre Buddhist history of Sri Lanka.
But not everyone like King Wijeya. It is not only the King Edward VIII chose to abdicate his throne because of the woman he loved, We have Prince Saliya who did the same thing during the period of Anuradhapura. Prince Saliya was King Dutugamunu’s Son he fall on live with beautiful low cast girl, Ashokamala and simply he gave up his throne .Eventhough King Dutugamunu is famous for being war hero ,who defeated King Elara,with his son’s matter he was very gentle father. He built a nice palace near the Lake Tissa, still we can see ruins of this place.
The Ranmasu Uyana, it’s the first recreational facility in ancient Sri Lanka.Also there is a stone mural Prince Saliya and Ashokamala. Everyone known as “the Isurumuniya Lovers”
But it is not necessarily to end the love story from marriage. It’s good if we can finish it over a marriage, but most cases it’s not the end. The Indian Sub continents we have great love story Over God Krishna. The God Krishna is the eighth incarnation of God Vishnu.
The epic love story of Radha and Krishna consider as the climax of all the love stories in Indian sub-continent. Radha is Krishna's supreme beloved, but they never got married or even remotely close to that, Radha was already married by the time she met Krishna. Later Krishna married Rukmini not only that he married another 16008 wives, but still between Radha and Krishna had very passionate love over each other. They had nine nights on banks of Yamuna River. Still Hindus celebrate “Nawa Rathree” based on this event.
But again with 16008 wives Krishna might not have enough time to spent with Radha .If Krishna spent a day with a one of his wife he will approximately take over 40 years to for all of them...well that 's little higher hope . But still Between Radha and Krishna we believe they have true love for each other’s. I’ m not sure Radha has that much patience over Krishna. But again she has a husband as well while Krishna is away from her.
This is good if we are looking for some sort of divine eternal experience in love, but if you are looking for something more human experience I think it’s better to avoid already married people.
Sri Lankan poet, song writer, actually a man of many things, Mr. Lushan Bulathsinghala has written poem which says that the real love stories will never ended in marriage and those who got married will never stay as lovers. It may be his personal idea but most cases getting married is totally different from fall in love.
When we get married more or less it is like an agreement with certain conditions, as Sri Lankans many of us; we do have to think of our parents. Without their consent of course can get marired,but rest of the other things are not that easy. Most of us cannot ignore parents and family even if we think of being independent or radical. I have seen some cross marriages over different religions in Sri Lanka.From the beginning they all thought how bravely they have made decision over their marriages but when they reached to their middle age most of them start regretting.
The other critical reason which affect to the marriage is horoscope.In Sri Lanka most of them have strong believe over matching horoscope, some love affairs over 10 years, but they did not get married because of the horoscope issues.
In Sri Lanka we had very sad real love stories, A school boy stabbed to a one of his class mate simply the boy could not accept the rejection of his love by the girl. There may be lot of stories similar to this, but I personally knew the family of the girl. Their home is in Kiri Ella, which is about 10 km from my home town.
The boy and girl knew each other for long time, Now both families has lost a son and a daughter. The boy is serving in prison. Both of them were in my age this was happened in 2002 while we were doing advanced level .during the election day I met the mother of the girl who was killed at school nearly 13 years ago. She cried in the middle of the town when I talked with her. She is still crying for the loss of her love. She told me recently her husband also passed away and now she is alone .She was saying there is nothing she could do to forget the memories of her lost daughter. For my understanding parents love cannot be replaced at all. Again this may not be a common fact for everyone but for most of us.
I think children can replace by their love with someone else. They have time and they will meet people, but love parents cannot do that. They will never have time when they lost their love ones.